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Even though more couples are opting for online RSVPs, there are still many that want to go the traditional route. Just like in the wedding invitation wording post, I’m going to break down each part of the RSVP card wording to explain its significance.
This aspect of your RSVP card wording is used to actually ask your guests to respond. A few common phrases are “kindly respond,” “a response is requested,” and “the favor of a reply is requested.”
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The next part of your RSVP card wording is the deadline. Guests need this or you may find they will forget and never respond. People need deadlines! To decide on a deadline, you will want to consult your other vendors (especially your caterer). They will need a final guest count by a certain time, but you should also give yourself an additional week to call anyone who didn’t reply. This is typically 3-4 weeks before the wedding. Too much longer and some guests will forget to respond.
In order for you to know who is attending your wedding, your RSVP card wording needs to include a place for guests to fill in their names. Traditionally, this is achieved by writing an “M_”. Guests fill it out with their title (Mr. and Mrs.) and name. However, some people are confused on how to fill out a wedding rsvp this way. So, some couples opt to only put the blank line.
Pro tip: Unfortunately, some people will forget their names completely! Number your guest list and write in that number very small on the back of the RSVP card. You will thank me when guests forget to fill in their names.
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Above all, your RSVP card wording needs to have a space for your guests to respond.
You can leave this section as simple as using “accepts” and “regrets”, but there are many other options. Luckily, you’re able to have some fun with it. Spice it up a little with “happily accepts” and “regretfully decline”, or you can change it up completely with something like “can’t wait to celebrate” and “we will be there in spirit.”
Along with the accept/regret, you have the option of asking them how many people are coming or even making it clear how may people were invited. A few examples: “We have reserved _ seats in your honor,” “Number of guests attending _,” or “_ guests attending out of _.” Some of those blanks would be pre-filled.
If you’re having a seated dinner and you need to take orders in advance, you can also do this in your RSVP card wording. You will list all of your meal options, and I recommend having your guests initial by their selection. This way, you will know exactly which guest wanted what.
These are all of the important elements that need to be included in your RSVP card wording, but there are other fun additions that are completely optional. Song requests and notes the couple are just a couple of my own favorites. You can get creative with this one!
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An RSVP card may be small, but it holds a lot of important information.