How to Address Wedding Invitations

Wedding invitation address etiquette is overwhelming, but it is extremely important to get right. In fact, the envelope addressing format you use tells your guests so many things and makes them feel more welcome. That’s the whole point of etiquette, right?

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It's daunting to know how to address wedding invitations. I can help you make sure all of your guests feel welcomed!
It's daunting to know how to address wedding invitations. I can help you make sure all of your guests feel welcomed!

Double or Single Envelopes?

You’ve probably wondered, “What’s the point of two envelopes? Is that really necessary?” More and more couples opt to eliminate the second envelope. However, double envelopes are more traditional and do actually serve a purpose.

Outer envelopes keep the inner from getting dirty. As a result, your guests are much more likely to hold onto the inner envelope instead of throwing it away.

An outer envelope also allows you to put an envelope liner on the inner envelope. Consequently, this keeps the liner from ripping when guests open it.

Also, double envelopes make it very clear who is invited because you can state them individually by name on the inner envelope. This clears up any confusion about adults-only weddings.

It's daunting to know how to address wedding invitations. I can help you make sure all of your guests feel welcomed!

Inner Envelope Format

If you choose to use an inner envelope, you typically use titles and last names only. List children by first name on a separate line. You may also drop titles and use more personal names for your friends and family. Here are a few examples:

“Mr. and Mrs. Jackson
Claire and Bobby”

“Samantha Peters and Guest”

“Grandma and Grandpa”

Outer Envelope Format

If you don’t use inner envelopes, your outer envelope needs to include every person invited by name. The format for families is similar to the above with the exception of including the parents full name. If using inner envelopes, Children’s names and “and Guest” are left off the outer envelope. Technically, families with children over the age of 18 should receive their own invitation.

In general, do not include any abbreviations in the address other than titles. For example, spell out words like “Street” or “Apartment”. Additionally, do not abbreviate states either.

“Miss” is typically used for girls under the age of 18. Otherwise, use “Ms.”

Traditionally, a man’s first and last name are never separated.

Including the proper amount of wedding invitation postage is incredibly important. Standard USPS stamps are one of three options for your postage. You also want to make sure your envelope addressing is correct. | Custom wedding invitations by Little Fox Paperie | Chicago, Illinois | Gracie Nunez

Unmarried Couples

Unmarried couples living together receive one invitation with both of their names. Luckily, the order is a little flexible here. Specifically, you may choose to put them in alphabetical order or in order of who you know better.

“Mr. Jacob Martin and Ms. Rebecca Wright”

Married Couples

Traditionally, a man’s first and last name are never separated. Always list couples in the order of highest “ranking” if either of them are doctors, judges, military, etc.

“Mr. and Mrs. Phillip Jackson”

“Dr. Elizabeth Jackson and Mr. Phillip Jackson”

“Drs. Elizabeth and Phillip Jackson”

“Dr. Phillip Jackson and Dr. Elizabeth Lewis” (If they have different last names)

“The Honorable Elizabeth Jackson and Mr. Phillip Jackson”

“Reverend and Mrs. Phillip Jackson”

For men who are the second (or third) of their name, write “Mr. and Mrs. Phillip Jackson, junior”. There is a comma and “junior” is written in lowercase letters.

Married or unmarried, same-gender couples with different last names should be listed alphabetically by last name unless one outranks the other.

Including the proper amount of wedding invitation postage is incredibly important. Standard USPS stamps are one of three options for your postage. You also want to make sure your envelope addressing is correct. | Custom wedding invitations by Little Fox Paperie | Chicago, Illinois | Gracie Nunez

I know it seems daunting to address wedding invitations. However, it isn’t actually that bad. Go through your list, and do the proper formatting for the easy ones first. Then, go back and format the more complicated ones. Just take it case by case, and ask your stationer if any of them are confusing!

xo, Gracie